How to Break the Abusive Cycle

What is it like to have an abusive husband? Many people compare it to an obsession or addiction of some kind. The wife knows the bad side of this relationship yet there is something drawing and keeping her in. 

Why? Because a husband, that is although abusive, is otherwise a wonderful man, in fact in some ways he is more wonderful and exceptional than many men out there. Except, he is abusive to the wife. 

His woman usually would come back when he shows those wonderful sides of himself. 

Is it bad to be tempted by one's husband?
No, of course not. But like any problem people get themselves into, they have to learn the necessary skills to overcome adversaries. Since women usually are reluctant to leave their abusive husbands, experts in the area of spousal abuse are thinking of new ways to help these women. Instead of continuing to convince them that they shouldn't return to the men they love so deeply, there are things that can be done.

Steps that can help you out.

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1) Don't let yourself relive the times you felt hurt. Learn new ways to treat the man you love so that it brings out the best in have. There is no wrong or right. It's all about love. Use your feelings. Anything you do, but do not go through the abuse again.

2) Know that he has abusive tendencies and habits that even himself does not realize or can control. He has not changed because all this time, he doesn't see it as abuse. His actions are generally triggered beyond his will.

3) Know that the control is better left in your hands than his. Do not try to reason at length with him.

4) Know that most abusive men won't admit their faults until long after their women left them. 


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It may be better if you don't return. But if you do, make the best choices for your relationship. Create a new beginning that brings you a constructive and loving relationship with your spouse.